Vindictive is to be- ‘Disposed to or inclined to revenge’
A very human reaction to betrayal. But is it constructive?
“Revenge may sometime lead us to harm others in the mistaken conviction that it will benefit us and bring us some sort of happiness. Actually, it creates suffering not only for the victim of our deeds, but also for us.” – Dalai Lama
When actions are motivated by revenge, what most likely transpire is equally unjust. If we as the wounded can see past our own anger and fear and respond out of compassion for the woundedness that led the person who hurt us to do so, we are recognizing the importance of expanding the circle of healing not only to we who suffer, but to those who caused the suffering.
In this way, forgiveness can allow us to recognize the humanity we have in common with those who have injured us.
“Anger makes you smaller, while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond what you were.” – Cherie Carter-Scott
Forgiveness is not a gift to the wrong does. It is a gift to ourselves. It is our ultimate freedom from the emotional burden of anger and hate.